Waking Up the Inner Cosmos
Thursday, June 21, 2012
Inner Critic
Wednesday, April 18, 2012
Subpersonalities - You're not entirely who you think you are...
I used to wonder why I would behave a particular way in different situations. Then along came some courses on subpersonalities. Is it really true that we are made up of a plethora of different personalities that come out to play at different times? mmmm hmmmm. And I'm not talking about dissociative identity disorder ( or what used to be called multiple personality disorder). No, sub-ps are an integral part of every human being. They are parts of us that may have developed in childhood to get a need met or may correspond to a role or job position we have taken on as an adult. Our ego is comprised of numerous selves, each with its own distinct energy. We may or may not be conscious to these selves. Those of us who go about our day on auto-pilot will most likely have no conception of when a particular subpersonality is operating.
My song explains further the fascinating world of the sub-p. Happy listening!
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Saturday, April 7, 2012
How much do you reaaallly like yourself?
'Tis another journal question for Spiritual Director. They dig deep. They hit home...
Do you like yourself as much as you want others to like you?
... a tricky yet
timely question. I’ve been examining recently my desire to be liked by
everyone; where it stems from, how powerful it is, and what purpose it serves.
My people pleaser sub-personality plays a key role in my apparent need to be
liked by others. Wanting to be liked from this perspective, however, comes from
a place of lack, a perceived idea that I alone am not good enough and therefore
need approval from others to be validated as a worthy human being. Coming from
this energy, how could I possibly like myself?
As I do my work
this is shifting. I understand on an intellectual level that I am the universe
in person yet I continue to work toward feeling this on a visceral level; to
let is sink through my neurons, down my spine into my bones, sinew, blood, and
flesh, until I can espouse the notion in every fiber of my being. Maybe then I
will like myself more. Right now, as I work towards seeing myself as I really
am, I strive to be easy on myself and practice self-compassion. I ask myself, “Whom
must you live with for the rest of your life?”
Oh! Only me. Then what matters more: liking myself or being liked by
others? Myself, of course. Ah, but the existential fear of rejection screeches
like a banshee, tearing me from my grounded zone of Universal love, if ever I
can get there. When I feel like I have gained ground in my attempts at
redemption from self-pity, I swoop back down the curve of the spiral and wind up
in a familiar place with just slightly more knowledge. This is the nature of
the search, and soon I will be propelling myself up the spiral, happy as a
lark. And larks are cute. I can like a lark. Larks are happy regardless of who
likes them. Maybe someday I will get there.
Tuesday, March 27, 2012
Putting a question out there to the Universe, or God, if you will...
In my spiritual director class we are given several questions to answer over the term. Naturally, I have been procrastinating in the same way I have been putting off starting this blog. It dawned on my that I can put an end to my procrastinating all around and forever by cutting two carrots with one knife (compassionate version of the birds/stone expression) and posting my first journal question as my first blog post. Yes, I am too industrious for my own good. So here it is, my answer to the question,
"What question would you like to ask God and why?"
I am tackling
this question after just having tested a chocolate recipe for the first time
and subsequently consuming nearly half the chocolate before getting it into the
mold. My first inclination is therefore to ask God, “Why is my self-control always reduced to naught when it comes to chocolate?” Engaging God in this dialogue,
however, would be futile as we all know it is best to just surrender to
chocolate. I’m sure God knows that I know this. Moving on to a question in
which the stakes are slightly higher, relatively speaking, yet of content concerning
no greater importance, absolutely speaking, I would ask God, “What is my higher
purpose and how can I use it to serve all sentient beings and our planet?”
Getting
an answer to this question would probably make life too easy, yet that doesn’t
stop my burning desire to know...now. Given the option, I’d much rather skip the
discovering, which would of course involve inherent mistakes, obstacles, stepping
out of my comfort zone, facing fears and maybe even falling on my face a few
times. How wonderful it would be to instantaneously come to a definite knowing of
why I am here! I could therefore get started on pursuing my higher purpose sans
self-doubt or questioning, “am I really doing the right thing?”
As
I contemplate this question to God, an unsettling feeling comes over me. My
inner wisdom tells me that the answer will come in due time yet my ego would
love to take the short cut and know right NOW. Despite my resistance, it
appears that like so many others, I too have bought into our culture of instant
gratification. Knowing the answer to this question would negate the journey
required to truly come to and know
the answer. The learnings, skills, encounters, growth and self-knowledge
attained along the way which are necessary components to the answer of my
purpose question would perhaps be overlooked if I had a tangible answer at the
snap of my fingers. Following my intuition, noticing synchronicities, using discernment,
staying true to myself and diving into the mystery are far more pertinent ways
of realizing my purpose than a simple, “Hey God, what do you want me to do?
Just tell me and I’ll do it."
All
this being said and painstakingly mulled over in the short time it’s taken me
to write this, I’ve decided to retract my question. Instead, I go back to my
original theme concerning chocolate, and I ask, “Dear God, could you make it
possible for me to inhale copious amounts of chocolate minus the consequent icky-tummy
feeling?”
Love your chocoholic devotee,
Erin
What was left of my yummy chia-choc-ies
after my gorge-fest
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